Connected Counselling Services (CCS) is a neurodivergent-affirming practice run by me, Adrienne, an ADHDer and low-key neurodiversity advocate. Many on our team of psychotherapists have lived experience with neurodivergence. We understand that ADHDers experience the world in unique ways that are valid and worthy of support. However, many ADHDers face unique struggles and often benefit from affirming therapy.

Having traits of ADHD doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you; it simply  means your brain works differently than what our culture has decided is “the  norm.” Whether you are exploring ADHD traits, wondering if you are neurodivergent, or seeking therapy for ADHD for yourself or your child, our team is here to offer a space that is inclusive, affirming, and designed to support your needs.

What Does It Mean to Be Neurodivergent?

The term neurodivergent—often shortened to ND and coined by Judy Singer— describes people whose brains work in ways that diverge from so-called “typical”  (also called neurotypical) ways of thinking, learning, and processing information through the senses. This includes ADHDers, autistic individuals, dyslexic individuals, and many others.

At CCS, we don’t like the term normal, and we believe that neurodivergence is not a flaw or a deficit—it is simply a different way of experiencing the world.

Understanding ADHD Traits

ADHD is a way of being—often called a neurotype—that influences how people focus, regulate energy, interact with their environment, and relate to others.  Although ADHDers often experience difficulties in a world built for neurotypical people, they also frequently have dynamic, creative, and fast-moving minds.  Some common ADHD traits include:

  • A brain that thrives on interest and urgency rather than routine structure
  • An ability to hyperfocus on engaging tasks while struggling with repetitive or  boring ones
  • Strong emotional responses and a deep sense of justice
  • A need for movement, stimulation, or novelty to stay engaged
  • Difficulties with conventional organization and time management but often  excelling in out-of-the-box problem-solving

These traits are often framed by doctors, psychologists, and even therapists as symptoms, but at our practice, we believe that ADHDers don’t have symptoms —they have ways of thinking, moving, and experiencing life that may differ from neurotypical expectations.

How Do You Know If You Have ADHD?

If you’re wondering, Am I neurodivergent? or Do I have ADHD?—you’re far from alone. Many teens and adults self-identify as ADHDers, which is completely valid.

Some people seek a formal ADHD diagnosis, while others recognize their traits through lived experience and community connection. Both are legitimate.

For adults, whether or not to seek a diagnosis is entirely your choice. No one else gets to define your ND experience for you. It can be validating to know that even if you don’t meet clinical criteria for ADHD, you may still have ADHD traits and identify as an ADHDer.

That said, some ADHDers seek out a formal diagnosis, particularly if they need accommodations at school or work or access to medication. While this process can be frustrating and costly, many institutions require an official ADHD  evaluation to provide support and resources.

ADHD, Mental Health, and the Challenges of a Neurotypical  World

ADHD is not just about focus and impulsivity—it can also have a profound impact on mental health, especially since living life in a world built for neurotypical people is hard! Research shows that individuals with ADHD are at significantly higher risk for anxiety, depression, and emotional dysregulation due to the challenges of living in a society that often does not accommodate their needs.

  • Studies estimate that adults with ADHD are up to five times more likely to experience anxiety disorders compared to neurotypical adults.
  • Over 50% of people with ADHD will experience depression in their lifetime.
  • ADHDers are more likely to experience rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD),  an intense emotional response to real or perceived rejection.

Living in a world that prioritizes neurotypical ways of thinking and organizing life can make daily tasks, relationships, and self-esteem difficult for ADHDers.  However, affirming therapy can help ADHDers develop self-compassion, build strengths-based strategies, and navigate life in ways that work for them.

Therapy for ADHD

ADHDers often benefit from therapy that supports their needs rather than trying to “fix” or “correct” neurodivergent traits. At our practice, we offer ADHD  counselling that is affirming, strengths-based, and tailored to each individual.

Therapy for ADHD adults, teens, and kids may focus on:

  • Finding ADHD-friendly ways to work with rather than against your natural  rhythms
  • Navigating executive functioning challenges (e.g., impulse control, memory,  planning) with tools that actually fit your brain
  • Understanding and regulating emotions in a way that honours your unique  needs
  • Building self-compassion, self-worth, and unlearning internalized ableism
  • Exploring accommodations, routines, or lifestyle shifts that actually work for  you
  • Working on any mental health experiences you may be having, including  managing anxiety, depression, and more

Therapy for Neurodiverse Couples

Neurodiverse couples or relationships—where partners have different neurotypes—face unique challenges, including differences in emotional expression, communication, and managing daily life. Therapy for neurodiverse  couples often involves:

  • Helping partners understand each other’s neurotypes, how they view and  experience the world differently, and how this might impact the relationship
  • Navigating differences in sensory or emotional processing between partners to  foster mutual support
  • Building strength-based communication to foster clear, supportive  conversations and conflict resolution in ways that honour each partner’s  abilities and style

Therapy for ADHD should never be about forcing you into neurotypical expectations—it’s about helping you understand and embrace yourself while finding practical ways to move through the world that work for you.

Neurodivergent-Affirming Support

If you’re looking for a practice that truly understands ADHDers and values neurodivergent experiences, we’re here for you. Whether you need therapy for neurodivergent adults, couples, families, youth, or kids, we provide a space where you can be understood, supported, and empowered.

As Sonny Jane Wise says: “We are all neurodiverse!”

Book a session with us today and get the affirming support you deserve. You don’t have to navigate this alone—we see you, we understand you,  and we’re here to help.